Everybody Deserves A Broken Heart

Look deep into the eyes of anyone who has suffered a shattering of the heart and you will see a heavy glimmer of wisdom, maturity and caution…

Similar to my earlier post, this one also has an ironical subject. A very nicely written article for all those Devdas’ out there.

Everybody Deserves A Broken Heart.

PS: As my vocabulary is weak, I needed a dictionery for this article 🙂


Don’t Work. Be Hated. Love Someone.

Written by Adrian Tan, author of The Teenage Textbook (1988), was the guest-of-honour at a recent NTU convocation ceremony in Singapore. This was his speech to the graduating class of 2008.

“I must say thank you to the faculty and staff of the Wee Kim Wee School of Communication and Information for inviting me to give your convocation address. It’s a wonderful honour and a privilege for me to speak here for ten minutes without fear of contradiction, defamation or retaliation.

Life is a Mess.
You’ve probably been told the big lie that “Learning is a lifelong process” and that therefore you will continue studying and taking masters’ degrees and doctorates and professorships and so on. You know the sort of people who tell you that? Teachers. Don’t you think there is some measure of conflict of interest? They are in the business of learning, after all. Where would they be without you? They need you to be repeat customers.

The good news is that they’re wrong.

The bad news is that you don’t need further education because your entire life is over. It is gone. That may come as a shock to some of you. You’re in your teens or early twenties. People may tell you that you will live to be 70, 80, 90 years old. That is your life expectancy.

I love that term: life expectancy. We all understand the term to mean the average life span of a group of people. But I’m here to talk about a bigger idea, which is what you expect from your life.

Bad news. Read the papers. There are people dropping dead when they’re 50, 40, 30 years old. Or quite possibly just after finishing their convocation. They would be very disappointed that they didn’t meet their life expectancy.

I’m here to tell you this. Forget about your life expectancy. After all, it’s calculated based on an average. And you never, ever want to expect being average.

Revisit those expectations. You might be looking forward to working, falling in love, marrying, raising a family. You are told that, as graduates, you should expect to find a job paying so much, where your hours are so much, where your responsibilities are so much.

That is what is expected of you. And if you live up to it, it will be an awful waste.

If you expect that, you will be limiting yourself. You will be living your life according to boundaries set by average people. I have nothing against average people. But no one should aspire to be them. And you don’t need years of education by the best minds in Singapore to prepare you to be average.

Don’t Work. Instead Play.
The most important is this: do not work.

Work is anything that you are compelled to do. By its very nature, it is undesirable. Work kills. If you work, then day by day, bit by bit, your soul is chipped away, disintegrating until there’s nothing left. A rock has been ground into sand and dust.

There’s a common misconception that work is necessary. You will meet people working at miserable jobs. They tell you they are “making a living”. No, they’re not. They’re dying, frittering away their fast-extinguishing lives doing things which are, at best, meaningless and, at worst, harmful.

Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort. You may never reach that end anyway.

Resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you enjoy doing. Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have value in itself.

Find that pursuit that will energise you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don’t, you are working.

Be Hated.
It’s not as easy as it sounds. Do you know anyone who hates you? Yet every great figure who has contributed to the human race has been hated, not just by one person, but often by a great many. That hatred is so strong it has caused those great figures to be shunned, abused, murdered and in one famous instance, nailed to a cross.

One does not have to be evil to be hated. In fact, it’s often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one’s own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average. That cannot be your role. There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong.

Love Someone.
The other side of the coin is this: fall in love.

I didn’t say “be loved”. That requires too much compromise. If one changes one’s looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We’ve taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work – the only kind of work that I find palatable.

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the true worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person. Despite popular culture, love doesn’t happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm.
You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face is less important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

Don’t work. Be hated. Love someone.”

Article courtesy: Half & Half

Happy Valentine’s Week

It that time of the year again!
The season of love begins…

Happy Rose Day

Happy Rose day

Feb 7 Rose Day
Feb 8 Propose Day
Feb 9 Chochlate Day
Feb 10 Teddy Day
Feb 11 Promise Day
Feb 12 Hug Day
Feb 13 Kiss Day
Feb 14 Valentine’s Day
Happy Valentine’s week.

What each day means…

Happy Valentine’s week

Valentine’s Day is nearby and the smell of love can be found everywhere. I used to believe ‘what the crap is this!’ As in…a guy would roam around his girl seamlessly, trying to impress her…especially with some expensive & hard-to-get gifts…for a “yes”!…there cant be any reason for that!!
Later as i went to jr. college & UG, i realised how this day works!
I mean, it gives an opportunity to express your feeling…People would still say that there can’t be a single day for such a thing. But my view is such a day gives that “extra special” effect, environment, attention & courage to speak out the feelings of the heart. I have seen my friends bunking normal routine/ classes to spend a good time with their loved ones. (Only some other guys…like me..used to attend the classes).

Anyways, as i see now the increasing popularity of Valentine’s Day has led everyone around the world to take the concept of “1 Day of Love” a step ahead. These days, the celebrations marking this day have extended to a week.

7th feb: Rose Day – Express your feeling with Rose. The rose colours would help say the unsaid. Red for love, Pink for grace and gentle feelings of love, Yellow with a tinge of pink represents friendship blossoming into love, Yellow for friendship and white for peace(not much relevant in valentine’s week).

8th Feb: Propose Day – Say the unsaid…express the feelings of your heart… That horror of getting rejected will always be there. So why not try today? Kabhi yeh toh nahi sochna padega ki time tha, mauka tha, bas bol nahi paya…nahi toh aaj kuch aur hota!!

9th Feb: Chocolate Day – Choclates are the sweetest gifts…share them with your loved ones.

10th Feb: Teddy Day – The name doesn’t make much sense, but its about giving gifts… Special (not really expensive) always stand way ahead.

11th Feb: Promise Day – Valentine’s swear to abide by the promises they have made to their loved ones on this day…like they’ll be together the next valentine’s day too! hehe.

12th Feb: Kiss Day – If your previous days went good, this could be a great day. As the name itself suggests, it is the day when you can convey your feelings for the one you love by this silent expression of love.

13th Feb: Hug Day – A hug is another expression of emotions that need not be spoken aloud.

14th Feb: No need to tell about it! Everyone knows what it means & why is it imp.